It is funny how you can be in a relationship for three and a half years and feel like the other person only knows half of you. For me, a young nineteen year old when I hopped into my first relationship, it was very hard to show my true self because I wanted him to like me. Ultimately it negatively affected the relationship because I felt like I had to hide a side of me that he had never seen. The side that sings all the time and annoyingly loudly (like so annoying, I annoy myself, annoying...). The side that dances across the room to any kind of music. And the side that bursts into song whenever someone says the lyrics to a particular song in a sentence (friends you know what i'm talking about). Those parts of you, you should never hide! It is the characteristics of yourself that makes you, you, and it makes you a happier person. 
A lot of my unhappiness in life had been contributed to hiding. All because I cared what others would think if they heard my high pitched, off key, and tone deaf singing voice (I may be exaggerating a bit). Or what people would think if they saw my crazy dance moves for the first time. However I sit here asking myself, why do I care what they think? If they don't like me for my voice or for my dancing or my random spurts of singing because they said some lyric to a song and that song popped into my head and I burst into song, or part of that song, then they are the ones who are missing out. If someone doesn't like you for you, then they really don't belong in your life. Their loss!
There were so many times in the relationship that I rode in the car for hours wanting to sing and dance to the music on the radio but never did because I had never shown that side of me before. I was afraid; But afraid of what? That is what I should have been asking myself. I was just so stuck in the way things were. The more and more time that went by it was harder to unleash that side of me which of course ended up contributing to my own unhappiness. However when I rode in the car with just myself things were completely different. Those were some of the best times. I didn't have anyone in the car with me. I could sing as loud as I wanted and I didn't have a care in the world. At stop lights I definetly got some crazy looks and stares from people in the cars next to mine because they were jealous of the ultimate jam sesh I was having inside the car (i'm pretty sure they wanted to join in).... "Care about what other people think and you will be their prisoner." -Lao Tzu
You should simply be yourself all the time! Don't change yourself to impress someone else. If God has plans for that person to be in your life then it will simply happen and they will like you for who you are inside.
Kind of upsetting that it took me until age 23 to find this out and to truly be happy!!! God had plenty of lessons and obstacles that I needed to first face. Now the past is the past. God has great plans for my future. It's time to look forward and with God guiding me the possibilities are never ending! The future is shining brighter than ever and I have a feeling my journey is going to be an incredible one!
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